In Parenting, We Do What Has to be Done

Today, we continue with the review series  Cowboy EthicsWhat Wall Street Can Learn from the Code of the West.  We are up to the fourth principle, and one I think many of us strive for every day.

Principle #4: Do What Has to be Done

Our 7th grader has exams this week.  Ugh.  I was just bemoaning this situation to a friend whose son is also in this hell week.  In our house, we are ALL in 7th grade.  Our daughter, while kind hearted and fun, can be all over the map when it comes to studying.  Honestly, it is an all out effort to get across the finish line, and believe me, we cross the finish line tattered, torn, and exhausted.  But, we cross the finish line.

Parenting is one of those things that is like a roller coaster – there are highs and lows, but we roll up our sleeves and get in the game.  The last week and a half has been more of a struggle, and I don’t think I’ll be getting that gold star I set my sights on when we planned out how well this round of exams would go.  Honestly, that’s okay.  It was never about me anyway.  What we did was to get it done.  It wasn’t pretty, and don’t even envision some Norman Rockwell scene where we are gathered around the kitchen table working together where I give an occasional pat on the head and smile.  Nope.  We were sprawled out on the floor, papers everywhere, with my hair straight out, and a kid who wanted a break every 10 minutes.  It was more of a scene out of a B rated movie, but we did it.  We pressed on, and made it to the end.

I think there is this illusion that doing the right thing is wrapped up in a neat bow with pretty wrapping paper.  I say it is a mud pie wrapped in newspaper.

“It’s not always easy to do the right thing, but nobody said it would be.”



2 thoughts on “In Parenting, We Do What Has to be Done

  • Thanks to your description I can visualize the scene so vividly. I’ll take the mud pie in newspaper every time, because in IMO that’s what makes memories, creates relationships and likely will create a habit that will last a lifetime. We seldom remember those things that come easy. For me it’s easier to remember the moments where there was struggle. Thanks for reminding me of that.

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    • I love your point that rarely do we remember the stuff that comes easy. It’s life’s challenges that can bring a sense of pride and resilience. Ah, yes. Maybe the struggle isn’t really the focus. Maybe it’s really the outcome and where we heal the broken parts that really means the most.


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